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The Narcissists Will Eventually Tell on Themselves
The critical thing to remember, you need to listen. Their truth is what they say about others.
Maybe you two are sitting around at dinner or perhaps having a drink. They start saying horrible things about one of their “so-called” friends. They tell you how this friend has cheated and lied to her boyfriend. But what they forget to say to you is they are talking about themselves, not their friend. They really are that delusional.
I had this happen to me numerous times, looking back. I think that it is normal to have what I would call a “flashback” when some random thing they did finally makes “sense.”
By the end of my five-year relationship with my ex, I began to see everything she said about every other guy, the same thing she would tell everyone about me. They really aren’t that clever once you are on to their game. And sooner or later, their house of manipulation crumbles. You can’t keep throwing everyone under the bus and using them without consequences eventually.
I’m not sure if it’s subconscious guilt or shame where they have to blame someone, but it is definitely weird as shit. I firmly believe they are capable of what they are doing but have to put it on someone else to get some relief.
