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The Real Reason Humans Desperately Seek a Relationship
It has nothing to do with love, but everything to do with escape.
A relationship becomes the center of your life when you have nothing going on in yours.
At a very early age we are brainwashed to get married, go to college, seek a career, save 20% of your income, have children, focus on retirement, chase the American dream, etc…and guess what? If you don’t follow suit, you will eventually be questioned, and judged.
So, very early on, the “hunt” was put into place. We need that “other” person to complete us. We are seeking a relationship for the wrong reason. We are looking for completion of self, while not adding to a self we already created, alone. Many think they are “alone,” but after their last break up their ex, or another potential suspect is in their view. While they give the image they are focusing on themselves, they are doing nothing but waiting in silence as they prepare for their next “escape.”
The wiser you get, the less desirable a relationship becomes, especially with a person who is out of touch with reality. The world looks completely different when you discover some awareness, and becomes unrecognizable after wisdom develops. It’s frustrating to say the least.
