The Real Reason Many Choose to Breakup in a Fury of Fire

How many clean, respectful breakups have you had?

Chris Freyler
5 min readJul 31, 2024
Photo by Colby Winfield on Unsplash

I’ve had four relationships in my 49 years of life. While my marriage was very rocky, we did end on somewhat respectful terms, but what led up to the divorce was anything but “respectful.”

There were the other two that ended in an inferno from hell. There was so many daggers thrown by the end, it made me see there was never love involved to begin with, it was nothing but unhealed trauma on both parts in a scripted movie didn’t even know we were in.

Trauma, plain, and simple

You’ve been fucking hurt so much in life, the hell if this person will see your good side for the “pain” you “think” they caused.

They are the problem, not you.

But very few remember, who picked who? You both had a choice. Either one of you could have walked after the first red flags started waving. But if you are anything like me, you ignore them.

Just like everything else in my life, I “wait” for things to get better. And yea, that’s all I do is wait in reality. There is very little action on my part to avoid disasters, or to try and stop them from happening.

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Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.