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The Truth Many Never Consider Before Having Kids
You lose a lot of freedom while taking on a huge responsibility
I’m a 46-year-old male, and I’ve never had kids. Did I want them? Hell, I have no idea. I’m pretty sure I’ll never have them at this point in my life. My ex-wife didn’t want them, but my family wanted us to have them. Imagine that. I have one friend that never had kids, my younger sister wanted them, but it wasn’t in the cards for her and her husband.
In my opinion, most of those having kids shouldn’t be having them. And the ones choosing not to should. And many are on the fence about having them and end up having them out of family pressure or societal norm. And when they do this, they don’t consider the effect on the child’s future. I see it in kids throughout my family and friends. It’s sad.
A kid will go through life dealing with their parent’s traumas the parent never healed before deciding to bring another life into their chaotic life and world.
I’ve been slowly looking into the dating world, and what a mess that is. All the women say “my kids are my life, my world, and yadda.” If they were your world, get your shit straight before bringing a strange man around. I heard many parents say, “if I had to do it all over again, I’m sure I would, but I wouldn’t give my kids up for…
