What Are Qualities You Look for in an Ideal Partner?

It has nothing to do with “looks”

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I’m freshly out of a four year on again off again toxic relationship. I hate the word “toxic” but there’s no other way to explain it. Maybe we can say unhealthy, sounds better than the buzz word “toxic.”

I have very little experience in the dating world. I never dated in High School or College. I got into a long-distance relationship at the age of 21 and that relationship would turn into marriage then divorce after 16 years.

But this last one flipped my life and sanity upside down

For me, the ideal partner would include these five traits.

1. Awareness: This is a must. They have to be aware of the world, life, and the “shit” they bring to the table. Because we are all a little or a lot of fucked up. If the person is aware of it, most issues can be worked out. I don’t care if it’s bipolar, borderline, or anxiety issues. Everyone has their issues, if you are aware of them most problems that arise can be worked through.
2. Loyalty: This goes with trust too. I have to be able to count on this person when I need them. Not in a codependent sense, but the sense when I’m down and out in life and need a pick me up. I want her smile to soothe my soul, so to speak. She has my back and would…