What Are Some Lessons You Can Only Learn From a Toxic Relationship?

The most valuable lessons can be most painful

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I finally realized that there is a lesson in every relationship, good and bad, if you are aware. I’ve spent years fighting against the lessons and not paying attention. In doing so, I keep repeating the same situations with different girls.

Once you can step away from the situation and see it for what it is, everything becomes more apparent. You will start to see patterns and the part you play in the toxicity.

Owning your part is the only way to break the pattern in my opinion.

1. Labels: I spent years trying to slap a label on the person that was doing the most horrid mind fucks I’ve ever experienced. I spent years researching for that one “label” to get the green light to leave. When all I needed to do was label the behavior(abusive), I would have had my answer.
2. Words: She promised me the moon, but what she delivered was manipulation. I don’t care what a person tells me anymore. Actions speak; words are words.
3. Boundaries: I had none. There’s nothing I wouldn’t accept. Cheat, lie, and manipulation. I wasn’t going anywhere.
4. Friends/Family: I will now pay careful attention to what their friends and family say about them. I also pay…