What do Narcissist want?
What they want is something they will never get, the perfect partner.
I’m not sure what they want, because each one is different.
I believe this is what both partners want, because the one that dates the narcissist is just as guilty:
1. Love: They both want love, but both go about it the wrong way. I believe the narcissist really feels in love with the person at first. Then their natural instinct kicks in and sabotages it. Then the partners instincts kick in, and they try and change the whole dynamic of the relationship, when it’s done at that point! Then we end up taking on the victim role, which very much keeps us stuck! While we play just as big of part.
2. Control: Both partners are fighting for control. While we try and make them change their behavior, they keep showing us they aren’t capable. So, it becomes a push/pull dynamic of control. “Please treat me better!” But I can’t!
3. Manipulation: The narcissist manipulates in their own way. Lying, gaslighting, changing the narrative, but don’t we also? We test them, to see if they love us, at least I did. “Maybe if I do this, or that, she will love me, right?” Wrong, it’s a form of manipulation. I knew it, it was shown to me many, many times, but I wouldn’t believe it.
