What Does Gaslighting Accomplish? Why do Abusers Use it?

And abuser’s that are experienced have done it for years, and it works for them. So they get better and better as the years go on.

Photo by RODNAE Productions: https://www.pexels.com

The abuser accomplishes….

• Control: They will beat you into submission until you don’t know which way is up or down.
• Lack of self-responsibility: They are incapable of genuinely accepting responsibility for their abuse, making the victim feel like the abuser, and they’re damn good at it.
• Denial: Helps the abuser stay in a never-ending state of “not me.”
• Delusion: It’s fascinating to sit back and observe once you are aware. The level of deception is unimaginable unless you go through it. It will even baffle the most aware.
• Confusion: It leaves the victim questioning the most mundane shit in life. And it will confuse your closest friends and family as you try to explain the insanity. And in reality, you have no idea what you are trying to explain.
• Alienate: It’s all you! Don’t you know that? It will leave you alone, broken, and on the brink of insanity while you run people off that don’t “understand.”

So, what’s it accomplish?

Precisely what it’s set out to do. Fuck you up so bad you question your reality, blame and question yourself. While the abuser looks like the saint and you look like the psychotic villain.

Sick shit. But once you know what is happening, you will never be gaslighted again.