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What Happens When The Narcissist is Your Only Relief?
It will lead you to a new level of suffering you didn’t know exist.
You did it! You have some time in the “no contact” chamber. You were buzzing right along! You are trying to get healthy and other aspects of your life and put more focus on yourself. Man, life seemed doable until it didn’t, right?
You’re trying to do what your therapist and others say; “Focus on yourself and things will get better. You have to sit in the feelings and they will pass. Feel the feeling.”
What is feeling the feeling?
We feel it alright, we feel a lot of confusing feelings after an abusive relationship. We have all the “familiar” with the feeling of abuse and emotional pain.
Could it be we are addicted to it? Are we addicted to the ups and downs of the chaos we’ve volunteered for over the last months or, even years? Sitting in your feelings does no good unless you can get in touch with where they are coming from and. why you are experiencing them.
Are they coming from other trauma that the Narcissist helped bring to surface? Or is it the trauma this asshole caused from years of manipulation, gaslighting and lies? Hell, you might have hit the jackpot and it is all of the above!
