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What Happens When You Lose Contact With a Narcissist?
That’s the thing; nothing will happen unless you know why you are going no contact, to begin with.
Yea, I know, to get away from the abuse. That asshole just lied and cheated on you again, right? I mean, they just promised you things will be different; they need you to trust them.
Going no contact just gets the ball rolling if you are anything like me. What about all the unhealthy distractions you developed to cope with the shit storm of a relationship you were in? What about why you chose this person then stayed with them, to begin with? Why did you do that? Why did you stay, giving chance after chance waiting for them to change while you were remaining just as stagnant as them?
The vital thing to know is they showed you who they are; now, who are you? Again, if you are anything like me, you probably have no clue. This relationship defined your whole identity. You put everything you had into this miserable form of comfort. You would go through hell and high waters for this person while they wouldn’t give the respect to at least be honest with you. Why was their abuse acceptable for you? I mean, it had to be OK, right? You showed them exactly what you would put up with, and they kept pushing the limits.
