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What is The Best Way to Forget and Heal From Narcissistic Abuse?
Sometimes things are best not forgotten to remember the lesson at hand.
I’m not sure you ever forget them altogether. And I think it’s good in a way to remember what you never want to repeat with a new partner.
Your best option would be to focus on yourself. Take time to self-reflect and see what was it in you that made you stay with them when all the alarms and bells and whistles were screaming run!
Over time the more you focus on yourself and less on them, the thought of them will fade.
The only problem is time will seem to drag as the torture of the trauma bond releases its grips slowly as you stay in no contact.
Stay off any form of their social media. Most likely, they are painting you as the abuser, or they are off with someone else living their great “fake” delusional life.
The minute I realized she was exactly who she showed me she was for four years, a light went off in my brain. Then a mirror popped up, and I had to look in it.
No one deserves to be cheated and lied to. Top that with the gaslighting, and it’s actual hell on earth.
So, time, no contact, and focus on yourself. Once you do that, they will slowly become a distant memory, and you will go back and ask yourself WTF were you thinking.
