What is the most difficult part of getting over a relationship with a Narcissist?

There is still a small part that wants me to believe it was real, she did love me.

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I’m not sure what kind of relationship I was in, but all points to Narcissistic Abuse. I’ve had three therapists tell me it’s Narcissism. I’ve researched the better part of 4 years, and all my research points to Narcissism. And I still doubt myself at times.

What’s the most challenging part?

• Acceptance: Yea, it’s sucks accepting it all was fake. It’s hard to process that much of the relationship wasn’t real. I was nothing more than a “stand-in” while they look for greener pastures that do not exist.
• Self Blame: Stay long enough, and if you are mind fucked just the right way, you will, and I mean, YOU WILL doubt yourself. You will want to take on the blame for your reactions to all the lies and abuse. They used the reactions to there abuse, as justification as treating you like they did.
• Overthinking: You will break down that last conversation, that last argument, the last time you questioned their behavior, why they snapped at you. You will seriously overthink your way into insanity.
• Trust: Let’s face it, most of us had underlying trust issues well before this manipulative person came into our life. They just came in and watered the “flower.” Trusting…