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What Personal Theories Do You Have About Love?
The meaning of love isn’t what most believe. There is more to it.
What’s that song by Johnny Lee? “Looking for love in all the wrong places.” That’s right, that’s it. That pretty much defines my love life.
The only difference was I wasn’t looking for love. I didn’t know what love was. When you are raised in an abusive, codependent household, your understanding of love is a bit skewed. You are raised that love is a sacrifice, and sometimes love is very painful. Not only physically but emotionally too.
You are taught that love has no boundaries, and if you love someone, you will sacrifice your beliefs and self to make the other person happy. You are taught that love is a one-way street while you spread yourself thin to show this person that you care for them. You are trained to give and give and be ok if you get nothing in return. Actually, you almost expect it.
The problem with the conditioning above is you will attract the wrong type of person, and usually, they will be abusive and take advantage of you. Not only do they take advantage of you, but they will bring to the surface the childhood trauma that was never healed, and the cycle of abuse starts all over again, except this time, you are an adult.
