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When Educating a Narcissist Backfires on You
Telling the Narcissist they might be Narcissist will be your personal hell.
The last two girls I dated were Narcissistic, or at minimum, had extreme traits. The ex before the previous had a therapist tell her she exhibited signs of Narcissism, but at the time, I had no idea what this shit was. I even told her the therapist must be nuts! Because she was perfect!
If I had known, maybe I wouldn’t be where I am today. Looking back, all the signs were there, but my Co-Dependency issues blinded me to the red flags, and I dived in headfirst.
The more covert the more damaging
After that relationship, here comes the second Narcissist. My ex was more Covert than my previous ex; again, all the signs were there, but I chose to ignore them. It’s been four years of hell. Lies, manipulation, cheating, gaslighting, physical abuse, deflection, projections, the whole nine yards! It’s been fucking brutal.
I severely screwed up by mentioning the word Narcissism to her or any of the Narcissistic terms, as she tried to use them against me. They are very good at projecting and shift blaming when called on their actions. They will not and can not accept the abusive behavior. They will either project it on to you…
