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Why Are People Settling in Miserable Relationships?
There are millions of people who deserve better than what they are with.
Many know it, but are afraid to take the leap of faith to find it. Hell, you might never find it, then you would be left with what most can’t fathom; being alone.
But then again, maybe what you have “now” in a partner is all you deserve. For years I’d tell my delusional self I deserved better than what I was dating, but like most everyone else, I did nothing about it. The chaos was comfortable. So I stayed and tried to change them, and not myself. Once you get caught in that vicious cycle it can seem almost impossible to break free from.
I might have said I deserve better, but I didn’t believe it. Because if I did, I’d left long before shit really started hitting the fan.
I’m beginning to see I deserve whoever I allow to stay in my life
If this one person dictates my emotions, feelings, self worth, and security, it has more to do with me, than what they are serving.
We pick, attract and keep those in our lives who feel familiar. But usually that “familiarity” isn’t healthy, but it feels “good” to us, even though the “good” gives us anxiety. Relationships are nothing…
