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Why Basing Self-Love on How Your Partner Makes You Feel has Disastrous Consequences
It’s so easy to say you have self-love, but how do you feel alone?
No one should solely depend on the way someone makes them feel to be happy. The problem with that when they disappoint you, which people do, it will be crushing.
I know; I’ve got my self-worth from others for years. And it was always from the wrong people.
In reality, love isn’t a feeling. Infatuation is, as is, the honeymoon phase. Relationships generally last 2–3 months before the wheels fall off. And it’s the main reason toxic people hop from relationship to relationship chasing that high.
Eventually, both partners become more comfortable and slowly reveal who they actually are. And sometimes it’s an ugly fucking person on the inside wrapped in a deceiving body. The manipulative person will keep the front up just long enough to sink their hooks in you.
Once the infatuation phase wears off, what you see is what you get. No more putting on the best face for each other. This is where love becomes an action. And that’s what love is, actions. And the actions make you feel good, especially from someone you love. But they can also feel really shitty if the person doesn’t have your best interest and…
