Why Can’t People in Toxic Relationships Just Break Up?

There’s this thing called “potential” and “hope.” Many live and die by these two beliefs.

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First, many get into relationships for the wrong reason. Mainly to not be alone. And when someone is terrified of being alone, their choices of partners will reflect their terror.

Then you have the run-of-mill disorder people.

Usually, some form of cluster b clinging like hell in search of love and acceptance. Or other untreated mental health issues are the big problem. Codependency, attachment issues, substance abuse, bipolar, narcissism, manipulation, etc., you get the drift.

Basically, it all comes down to your family dynamics. I don’t care what anyone says; the majority had something happen in childhood that will eventually rear its ugly head in a relationship.

While some have better childhoods than others, it doesn’t take much to screw a kid up if they aren’t aware.

Some relationships are salvageable, but the majority aren’t. And by the time you realize it’s not what you want, it’s too late. You’re in too deep with kids, marriage, white picket fence, you know, “the American dream.”