Why Discussing Feelings With A Narcissist is A Bad Idea

They don’t have time for your bullshit, so keep your mouth shut.

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If you ask them anything of substance, you will be met with silence! Especially if you want to talk about something they did and how it made you feel.

Silence is their secret weapon to shake you to the core and keep you guessing.

I don’t know how many times I tried talking to her. I’d ask, “Will you say something?!” Her reply, “I’m just listening,” or “are you done yet?” She would also say I drive her insane, I am crazy, or I drive things into the ground. I did drive stuff in the ground; I tried to understand it! It was so fucking maddening.

And these responses were coming from a so-called “Emotional Intelligence coach.” I’m fucking serious. She had excellent communication skills! Not!

I’m not the easiest person to talk with when discussing emotions, but I am working on myself. Just be honest with me, and I can work with you.

They are silent because they don’t want to incriminate themselves. Now that I look back, I don’t know how often the stories didn’t match what she told me. But it was a lot!

And once trust is broken, you will question everything. They won’t understand why you question…