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Why do Victims Think Narcissists Are So Great in Bed?
It’s a sexual manipulation that can’t be understood unless you experience it firsthand.
You were duped, is all. I haven’t had a lot of partners in my life, but looking back, my ex was about as superficial as you can get.
Sex was pushed hard and heavy in the beginning, hell before we even started dating. She made sure to tell me she loved sex and was very sexual out of the gate. It was almost too much at; first, it felt off, but I ran with it.
What will help break the addiction to them is to know what they are doing with you and what they are doing with multiple others. That connection they say they have NEVER felt with anyone else, BUT YOU is a lie.
They are telling numerous others the same thing every time you guys have a little spat, and they disappear.
It’s really mind-boggling to step back and look at their pattern. They all study from the same script; how similar they all behave to get the victim hooked is wild. Then they really solidify the trauma bond with the push and pull of sex to get your ole’ endorphins kicking and hooked. The bond will feel almost unbreakable, not only mentally but physically too.
