Why does no one ever believe you about Narcissist Abuse?

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Many suffer abuse in silence out of fear.

I think it’s the reality of it all.

Looking back, it’s damn embarrassing. I don’t even talk about it anymore other than the few close friends I have or when I write about it. And even then, I only discuss it with “one” that gets it.

Think about it; the shit we put up with is quite unbelievable. At times I still question myself if some of it really happened.

I have more asking “why did you stay?” “What is it about her? There are so many better people out there?”

Only two people know of everything that happened because I’m kind of ashamed I put up with it for so long. AND I would chase her down so that she could give me the “lesson” one more time.

I believe there are two reasons people find it unbelievable.

1. They can’t believe someone could be so manipulative and disrespectful in their actions. BUT betraying, lying, manipulative people are everywhere.
2. They can’t wrap their head around why you stay after all the torment and abuse. Friends and family are scratching their heads as to why?

The only people that understand are those that have experienced it. The projection and gaslighting will make you question your sanity.

That’s why it’s crucial to get validation from others that have gone through it. The more you talk, the more you will see the similarities.

A trauma bond is paralyzing and is unexplainable unless you experience it.

To understand is experience.

Unfortunately, this experience is a lasting one.