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Why is a Person Who Has Empathy a Magnet for Narcissists?
I think it’s more of a lack of boundaries than empathy
Because a person with empathy is forgiving and wants the best for the assholes, we give them exactly what they lack.
They generally come on strong and heavy with a story of how they were abused and cheated on in previous relationships when you first meet them. You will genuinely feel sorry for them. Their stories are so believable at the time, but you need to listen! Who better person to believe their sob story than a person with empathy?
They are telling on themselves if you pay careful attention. And if you didn’t catch it in the beginning, you will see it once you break free.
My ex was good at this, and she laid it on thick and heavy when we first met. She would write in her blog how she was cheated on! And when I asked her about it, she said she was really talking about herself but wasn’t ready to write about it yet. Truly sick shit.
If you stay with them long enough, you will find out the people they dated weren’t that bad of people. But at times, they can find a real asshole. But that’s rare. It’s most likely the person got fed up and snapped! I understand completely. A person can only take so much manipulation and lies before they lose their shit!
