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Why The Most Difficult Part of Narcissist Abuse is Missing The Abuse

It’s a form of addiction that can’t be explained and only experienced.

Chris Freyler
3 min readJul 4, 2022
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When you give someone everything, and they treat you like utter garbage, that’s a hard pill to swallow. Especially since we have feelings of empathy and guilt, we will ruminate in the abuse for months, sometimes years, after the relationship ends. Drifting back to the good times, what happened to them!?

You will wonder what the other person they cheated on you with had that you didn’t. You will wonder how someone can seem so loving one minute and such a cold heartless fuck the next. You will question if they loved you, how did they move on after a couple of days or weeks being apart?

You will want revenge, answers and you might begin to self-destruct or feel insane. You want this person to understand what they “missed” out on with you. You would walk to the end of the earth for them. But they don’t give a fuck what you would do unless it benefited them. If so, they are there to listen and play the victim. Oh, they are good at playing the victim and tugging at our heartstrings.

They don’t care about your feelings, and they don’t care what concern you may have. Your job is to shut the fuck up and support them no matter the abuse they put…

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Chris Freyler
Chris Freyler

Written by Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.

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